Yey! Congratulations to me . I will be 2 months married on June 8,2018.
I was always asked, what is the changes I encountered on my married life?
how was married life? If everytime I will be asked by that same question I will receive 1000pesos I will be a millionare right now.
0n that time,I still don’t have the answer. I’m still on the cloud 9. but now,if I will be asked again my answer would be EVERYDAY ADJUSTMENTS.
It’s not always fun and laughter,hugs and kisses,there are so many things that will test your patience about your partner. Like for my experience,
1. Who will do the dishes? Who will cook? Who will clean the house?who will do the laundry?
On our case, I’m not a good cook and I was used in leaving alone so I eat at the nearest eatery so I don’t have to do the dishes.I just pay and go back to my flat and rest.
On our first week , I prepare dinner after work because my husband is coming home.One of the biggest adjustment of my life.still ongoing improvement 🙂
but now,Husband do the cookings… our dinner ,breakfast and pack lunch. But hey, I do the preparations.. I chopped the onions,garlic, everything based on my downloaded cookpad app.
I cleaned the house depending on my mood.But now even I’m not in the mood to clean, I make sure I swept the floor and everything was organized.Husband hates cluttered .He said that cluttered home increases his stress, stress makes him impatient, impatience equivalent to being hot headed leading to fights. So lesson learned keep home organized.
I started Kon-Mari-ing our things last week.
2.Even I get married I make sure that during weekend I go home. Before, I was the only one travelling from Laguna to Batangas vice versa every weekend ,Now I have a constant partner where ever I go.
3.Jogging. I’m much more a couch potato than a sportiff. My husband jogs every morning so I was force to join on his routine.He wakes up early too,he gets mad if I wake up late even on weekends so I adjusted to it to avoid petty fightings.
4.Sundays,Husband make sure that we go to church every Sunday.Husband belief : The rest of week were given to us why not spend one hour to our Creator. This is a life changing thing to me as i said I’m not an early bird and I’m not a church goer.
5.Budgeting, since we got married I still have not yet swipe my credit card.No panic buying during sales,Not spending too much time, energy and money at the malls. Husband said that being kuripot (frugal)will save you in a long long way.
I was easily swayed by the sales at the malls, but now i really think ten times if I really need those things.
6.The hardest part is showing my payslip. HaHaahha. i don’t want to show my earnings to my husband so i can go solo with my money. hahahha. My friends advice me that don’t tell your whole salary to your husband because it will be included on the household budgeting..you will need to ask permission to him to buy personal things. So I was confused and decide to hide my payslip. Here’s how my husband explained why financial transparency is important.
6.1 Decision Making-sharing information about incomes so we are aware if we are going to make big purchases.
6.2 Setting realistic and long term goals- when can we retire? can i be a plain housewife and still go to salon while raising our 4 kids?(on going mass production hahaha)
6.3 Financial Security- are we still living within our means? Can we still support our parents? Are we in debt?
We cannot answer these question if we don’t know each other income.We are partner here and I’m not going to robbed your money. Those were the words that he explained to me so I surrendered and show him my not so big earnings. hahaha. That’s one of the many things I admired him, he is good in words.In simple saying bolero!haha.
7. It’s nice to wake up in the morning with your Someone special at your side,with a warm hug saying whatever life throws you,im with you.chos!
8.Petty Fights and Misunderstanding. Little by little I’m getting better on controlling my patience.Husband even when were on bf/gf stage has a habit of driving me mad.One of my biggest adjustment so far..Learning to control my patience and selecting the words that I will speak when I’m mad.
For sure,we are not perfect,we fight,we argue but we will not give up because we know its worthy.
That’s what on Mellie’s mind.
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